@mattyb resilience and frequency are indeed linked. Then your examples include trying to not add more stress, which is of course good, and using the ventral vagus power, which is good as well. But what almost all modern science misses is the weight of undischarged activations, which leads to tell people to make an effort, to push through and forget about old stories, or talk them in therapies, or get emotional catharsis, or organise new habits through a work on the limbic system. In most cases it pushes the activation deeper.
Nothing looks more overcome and out of you than what is IN you. Then some people escape all their life, and some get a trigger one day, and they crash so many years after, that it seems unrelated.
You would indeed become an easy break if you did not expose yourself to stress since childhood, but most people have had more than they should have had in their life, and this is what broke resilience in the first place. When you expose yourself to stress, you have to not reach certain thresholds,
or else you lower resilience. Instead of increasing it.
so all we can really do is build resilience
This is also what I say, but not by adding stress like a sort of vaccine. You build resilience by discharging the plates of the balance on both side.
This also means exposing yourself to stress
But not new ones. You have to expose yourself to the activation of your old stresses and detox them. This will repair the pathways of your ANS.
The technique to build resilience is about making go out of you a piece of old stress that you can sustain, so that you can put it out of you for real. Why do we have those stresses remaining in us? Because
when it is too big, the body cannot dump it, and stock it the same as it stocks toxins and heavy metals, and for the same reason, your wise body wants to prevent more damage. But long term, you HAVE to let them out. And let me tell you that is it safer to remove memories than lead or mercury...
So the only way, no matter the technique, is a technique that makes you feel a tiny bit of your stress and discharge the electric charge. This shows the way to your body, and re-start the natural system of the body. Any time you activate a bit too much, you damage a bit more the system, as if creating a too big Herxeimer! It works as detox, you cannot detox all at once! This is a pity this point escapes to most people and even scientists.
You all in this forum understand these principles when they are shown in hair test.
You know you can first show no copper or no mercury, and then when you get better, your body starts to dump the heavy metal that was kept in stock, in the cells! This is the same for stress! You know that your body can use nickel or aluminium instead of the mineral they should, and that you go on living, but that you have to come back to the right pathways. Your nerves work the same way, they have plan Bs but you need to come back to plan A.
If you wait for the stress to hit you without prepping for it, the only thing you can do is apply temporary patches
This is the only thing most people do, as we did not learn anything else. But this is not the only thing you can do.
I have once helped a guy who had an issue and who was waiting for the result to know about a possible cancer. He was overwhelmed by fear and could not go out of his anxiety up to the point that his eyes were having the gleam of high fever. ONE hour later, this was gone. TWO hours later I helped him do the same job in a few seconds, the next day he phoned me for help again, and by the time I was there he told me he had managed it alone. We never did anything else since then, and 2 months after he was able to stand mindfulness and when he once got his stress back, his wife just reminded him what we did, and he was able to do it. I am not going to tell you that it is always that easy and quick, but you can teach your body to get back its capacity, its elasticity, its resilience, And one word more, coherence.
